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Ok, so I met this girl from our student run website, where people post art and stuff. We talk a few times on AIM and find out that we have A LOT in common. I knew she had a boyfriend but she metnioned a few different times like she felt like they were drifting apart. She even feels the same way about all the shit in the world and has the same happy outlook on life. I hung out with her a few times after class, and we decided to hang out at her place after a life drawing class on a saturday. We started to watch a movie but before long we were all over each other. Then her boyfriend shows up for a little, then leaves, and we continued to mess around a little later. We had some great conversations the following days and were up till like 4AM every time we talked.

Then I get the, I can't do this to my boyfriend, I really like you though, I hope we can be great friends, and you never know what could happen later on.

I really like this girl, Im just so confused as to if I should hang in there and hope she ditches her boyfriend, or if I should give up and try to move on. It's just so hard for me to find someone like this. I really want to hang in there and see what happens.

At least I got rid of my high idle problem, it WAS the coolant temp sensor... stupid tiny ass piece of metal. :fist shake:

Welcome to the "Got Ditched because she couldn't do it to her boyfriend" club; population you and me.

Don't you just love it when you meet "the one" and she decides that her bf is better than you (or in my case, she cheats on her bf with you then goes back to him).

Well, consider it a good thing. If she'd cheat on her boyfriend with you, then she may cheat on you with someone else if she was dating you.

(Trying to bring a posative outlook on this)

or in my case, she cheats on her bf with you then goes back to him).

I REALLY hope this is not the case, she says she really likes me and that she doesn't know what to do quite yet, so untill then I think ill just keep my hopes high, maybe just this once the odds will be in my favor, maybe my hopes will just get smashed again.

Call me foolish, but it's been 5 years since ive been in a relationship, Im not quite willing to let it slip through my fingers.

let her make contact with you. a week ago i told a guy that i didn't want a relationship with him and i found out a few days ago he told people he was in love with me and that i was 'the one'. we've only known each other for less than three months. hmmm. weird. we've never gone on a date or anything ! he came to my house drunk at 2:30 am! he tried to convince me to change my mind. he drove off and hopped a few curbs, got high centered and almost rolled his truck. he wanted to look tough (he actually told me this in a 2 page letter he wrote to tell me how he felt, but he didn't know i don't care.) but he just looked stupid. he texts me at 1:30 every morning to talk to me even though i told him to leave me alone and never come to my house again. he drives by my house every morning to see if i'm home ( my friend across the street spies )

bottom line...stalking is bad! move on with your life, and if she comes to you in the meantime and she is indeed boyfriendless, see where things go. don't wait around for her and let her consume your life.

I don't think he's stalking her by any means. But I sort of agree with Suzie. Give her room. Give her all the room she could possibly want. If she wants to spend time with you, let her, but don't actively pursue it.

georryan wrote:Well, consider it a good thing. If she'd cheat on her boyfriend with you, then she may cheat on you with someone else if she was dating you.

(Trying to bring a posative outlook on this)

True. I've moved on anyways. She used me and then went back to her dimwit bf.

You know the old saying...

"If you like something let it go......if it comes back it was meant to be and if not there is always "G".

I'm just kidding about the last part. We all know that feeling of rejection. Scientists have proven that it can be compared to a hard punch in the gut.

Go fishing brother...go fishing.

I agree with most of the posts - remain friendly, but move on. If she's interested or has half a clue that she wants you she'll find you. Hell, maybe she has no clue at all (not that uncommon) and you're better off. And learn from me - a pretty face can make any conversation interesting and make Care Bears and milling machines look like long lost twins (that's the clean version).

Steve

Thanks guys, Im definetly not stalking her, or telling her that 'she's the one', we're still gonna hang out and stuff so...I'm just gonna hang back and see what happens.

You're making a lot of terrible mistakes.

1) You're being a nice guy
2) You're paying attention to her
3) You're giving her options

If you be an asshole, completely ignore her, and force her to do what you want, she'll be on you in no time at all.

This is what women want in men. Don't argue with me, I will rip your argument to shreds.

I'm right there with you brother. I've pretty much completely given up, to the point where a woman could throw herself at me and I wouldn't give her the time of day... not because I'm a fag, but because I'm tired of beating myself up psychologically over women. I expect to stay single the rest of my life.

I suggest you all see The 40-Year-Old Virgin.

Well, thats not a very happy outlook on things. Ive past the point of being afraid of getting hurt or toyed with, cause Im pretty damn sure this might be worth the risk. I just don't care, if something works out, great kickass woohoo, if not, oh well moving on.

Cheer up subyluvr

You people should know by now that I'm quite possibly the most negative-thinking person in modern history.

sorry! clarification...i said 'stalker' in reference to the psycho in my life. by no means did i intend to call legacypunk a stalker. i was warning him to not become one. once again, my apologies!

eyy no problem

Subyluvr has more roos than we can shake a stick at and he is negative.....why? I know some may need work but I'm sure it's minor stuff.

Don't let him fool you....he is a cool guy.

There are more fish in the sea guys. I know it sucks to have your heart broken but it's times like these that you re-think your plan of attack when it comes to dating. Don't sit around and think of "what am I doing wrong?" Chances are it wasn't you. Although most women will say that men a fickle, in reality most women are. The girl that brok your heart obviously did not know what she wanted and what she had in front of her. When she does realize what she pissed away, you would be a bigger man to go tell her to take a flying hike. If you take her back she now knows that she canm walk all over you and chances are you will take her back again and again. Take one for the home team and cut all emotional ties.

I don't know how old you are but go download a song by Tesla called "lovesong." Listen to the words...take it in. Cry a little if it takes you there. Then go put on a happy face and go out and face the world.

Just don't get involved until you know she's done with the BF for good. And I mean really done. If not, then there's going to be a whole mess of emotional shit on all sides to deal.

I should know.

subyluvr2212 wrote:You're making a lot of terrible mistakes.

1) You're being a nice guy
2) You're paying attention to her
3) You're giving her options

If you be an asshole, completely ignore her, and force her to do what you want, she'll be on you in no time at all.

This is what women want in men. Don't argue with me, I will rip your argument to shreds.

I'm right there with you brother. I've pretty much completely given up, to the point where a woman could throw herself at me and I wouldn't give her the time of day... not because I'm a fag, but because I'm tired of beating myself up psychologically over women. I expect to stay single the rest of my life.

I suggest you all see The 40-Year-Old Virgin.

you should really look into finding a webcast by tom leykis he is a god, and agrees with you completely

>>>If you be an asshole, completely ignore her, and force her to do what you want, she'll be on you in no time at all.


the man has a point. the most successful "ladies man" that I knew in college gave me similar advice. he advised to be nice at first, and if that didn't work, try being an asshole. Some girls like nice, and some like assholes, and that way you cover all the bases, in the right order

of course you ultimately may not like women who like assholes, or being an asshole

Just don't get involved until you know she's done with the BF for good. And I mean really done. If not, then there's going to be a whole mess of emotional shit on all sides to deal.

Thats my plan, I Definetly know she's into me so, its just time to wait, and see how things go.

Once a cheater, always a cheater.

I can't stress that one enough, pal. I've been there and done it with boyfriends, husbands, the running in and out of closets, the hiding, the phone calls, and the death threats. She's a slut, and there's no denying that. Think of all the girls you know who have NEVER been alone --no time between boyfriends, nothing. They treat guys like jobs --land another one before you quit the first. That's niether a healthy practice for her, or a good sign for anyone with a penis who's looking for a decent relationship. Get you ass to the library and start hitting on some homely-looking girls. They've got potential, and something you sound like you want and need:

A sense of loyalty and consideration for other people's emotions.

can't turn a ho into a housewife...

If you are bigger than the BF you could always go rub his nose into the fact that you did his girl. He will leave her for cheating on you and BOOM...back in there.

Or you could spread a rumor that you tow got it on and let it work it's corse.....same result.