Idea of a perfect woman or mate

[dzx]

Lately i've been wondering if its possible for me to ever fall in love again. It seems in all the relationships i've been in for the last 4 yrs, I haven't really cared about. I have a really cute ex-gf that always hangs out and wants to date again, actually its like we never broke up but I don't think that I want to. So this thread is for your idea of a perfect mate, someone you could possibly spend the rest of your days with.

I myself need a challenge. I like a woman that has a lot of attitude but not of the bad kind. One that is extremely intelligent and can actually talk with me and one that I don't have a need to finish my sentences or have complete thoughts for her to understand me. That's more important than looks to me, however she still has to be really attractive. . Oh yeh, a major pet peeve is she can't be ditzy or lacking in common sense. She has to be fun to just be around without being irritating like most of the girls i know.

[skid542]

I need a woman that's strong, not physically, but someone who's self-confident. She needs to enjoy the outdoors, doesn't have to be to the extent I do, but I need to be able to take her camping and have a good time. On the tall side would be nice and she should know how to keep herself fit. She doesn't need to be a toothpick or anything but just healthy. A good sense of humor is an absolute must too, I make too many bad jokes and I need someone to laugh at them . Lastly, she needs to be happy just hanging out and not going out on the town all the time. If her and I can't be happy together just hanging out then it's not going to work, not to be misunderstood for me not knowing how to treat a lady to a night out.

She's out there, just a matter of finding her or her finding me. I can be patient though because in the end life always works out as it should.

[scottzg]

She's made of polyvinyl and never says no.

[evolutionmovement]

Reliable, fun to play with, practical, and cheap ... oh wait, that's the car.

Attractive, moody, a little nuts, dark sense of humor, doesn't take any shit from me or anyone and isn't afraid to throw a punch, pragmatic, multi-interests, but at least one that's all her own, and one that wants to be with me but doesn't need me. Loyal and we connect like we've always known each other. She also has to be good in bed and like it in unusual places and times, but any woman that fits the other qualities would more likely than not be good in bed anyway.

I used to call this type the 'terrorist chick', but now that word just has such negative connotations that I have to explain it too much.

Steve

[LaureltheQueen]

I am the perfect woman. I change my own oil, I like to detail cars, I cook dinner almost every night, and I'm cute.

[skid542]

I am the perfect woman. I change my own oil, I like to detail cars, I cook dinner almost every night, and I'm cute.

Well we already knew this . I'm kinda hoping Art will speak up and tell us his secret since he seems to have it figured it out.

[Legacy777]

She's made of polyvinyl and never says no.

or talks back, and for the most part isn't a bitch.

[AWD_addict]

Sense of humor is necessary, should be smart enough that conversations don't make me sad, up for snowboarding or other excuses to go to the mountains, similiar taste in music, and at least fairily attractive. And to make this woman even less likely to occur in nature, some sort of financial sense/discipline.
I have no dillusions of ever finding this woman. It would be nice though.

[BAC5.2]

Someone who I can fart in front of, and not always have to make a dramatic scene about. Even if it stinks.

If I can drop a nasty, and she'll just say "baby, you farted" and I can say "yep" and then we keep on watching TV, THAT is a keeper.

[dzx]

lmao, so long as she doesnt do it too often

[magicmike]

I am the perfect woman. I change my own oil, I like to detail cars, I cook dinner almost every night, and I'm cute.

Well we already knew this . I'm kinda hoping Art will speak up and tell us his secret since he seems to have it figured it out.

Whats the mystery? He drives an sti!

[entirelyturbo]

I seriously don't have any strong preferences. The only thing is that we connect somehow. I've mentioned her before, the cashier at work who's Chinese-Jamaican. We are so socially incompatible it hurts, and we have jack shit in common. But we can talk about absolutely anything and everything; in fact, she has said she has NEVER met anyone in her life that she can talk to like me. And she has an absolutely killer body too . But: she claims to have no interest in me romantically at all. Fuck.

Then there is a girl I know who I have EVERYTHING in common with: Subaru obsessions, music tastes, family backgrounds (we're both orphans). She's not really all that attractive, but she is horny as shit... YET, she won't just jump into bed with anyone. She'd love to jump my bones, she's practically told me straight up, and I would happily oblige, but I guess there's a little voice in her head silently calling her a whore, so she always backs off when the subject arises.

But anyway, my point is that if there is a strong underlying connection somewhere, damn near any girl can get my interest.

[Tleg93]

Attractive, open minded, kinky, self reliant, somewhat stable emotionally, spontaneous and musical. At least two of these is fine.

I am the perfect woman. I change my own oil, I like to detail cars, I cook dinner almost every night, and I'm cute.

I know, can we clone you..nevermind, that's kind of weird. Got any friends that are like you?

[Tleg93]

I seriously don't have any strong preferences. The only thing is that we connect somehow. I've mentioned her before, the cashier at work who's Chinese-Jamaican. We are so socially incompatible it hurts, and we have jack shit in common. But we can talk about absolutely anything and everything; in fact, she has said she has NEVER met anyone in her life that she can talk to like me. And she has an absolutely killer body too . But: she claims to have no interest in me romantically at all. Fuck.

Then there is a girl I know who I have EVERYTHING in common with: Subaru obsessions, music tastes, family backgrounds (we're both orphans). She's not really all that attractive, but she is horny as shit... YET, she won't just jump into bed with anyone. She'd love to jump my bones, she's practically told me straight up, and I would happily oblige, but I guess there's a little voice in her head silently calling her a whore, so she always backs off when the subject arises.

But anyway, my point is that if there is a strong underlying connection somewhere, damn near any girl can get my interest.

Hehe, damn near any girl can get my interest for around 15 minutes but I think we're talking long term here.

That girl you're talking about who wants to jump your bones sounds cool.

[azn2nr]

. But we can talk about absolutely anything and everything; in fact, she has said she has NEVER met anyone in her life that she can talk to like me.

i think thats the single most important thing to me. conversation. i could give a fuck about everything else. after all, in a long term relashonship or marrige how could you wake up next to someone every day and not have anything to talk about.

then of course comes the physical features, im an eyes and face before body type myself

then comes self reliance and emotional stabilty. i hate girls that cry every time they look in the mirror or at other measaly things. but even more important than that on an emotional level she must be on the same level as me or maybe just one step above. no one too bubby yet not a slouch/emo type who always walks around with that forelorn look on their face. so on a scale of one and ten one being sad and ten being bubbly someone who hovers between 4 and 7 but stays for the most part at 5.5

[206er]

weve gotta connect, ya know, be able to understand each other pretty well and think pretty similarly, mutual respect.
she's gotta be smart and funny, but no super liberals or conservatives. helps if she's into music and stuff. A quirky slightly nerdy personality is hot. She's gotta be at least cute, and helps a lot if she's a redhead with green eyes and glasses. Im not too picky tho as long as she's cute.
I havent had a girlfriend in over a year apart from a couple one night stands with one that ended really badly, like she turned out to be a total psycho bitch, later throwing tequila bottle at my friends car bad. got a crush on a girl in one of my classes who appears to be the girl of my dreams but too chicken to go talk to her. super hot, bunch of tats, those horn rimmed glasses, great body.
I can be attracted to a girl, but if she comes off as a bitch thats a big turn off. other turn offs are conceited, self centered, or just a mean person. she could look like pam anderson and if she was a bitch she'd be ugly to me.

on a semi related tangent, how do all yous usually go about approaching girls? I usually just try to strike up a conversation and then ask em for their number if it seems to go well.

[stant093]

i would like one thats independent, and doesnt care when i come and go. I dont cheat, but i also dont like to be in relationships....but its hard to convince a woman that your not cheating when you dont go and see her for four or five days at a time....



yeah, ill be single for the rest of my life, i know it.

[tris91ricer]

I've been thinking about this, and I gotta admit.. it's a tough question to answer. Like anything else, or any problem, it's knowing that comes first, and gets you closer to resolution.

I still don't know what I want. But I'll attempt to contribute anyhow...

Her skirt will be knee-length, and leave something to the imagination.
Her jacket will be formal, but casual like a train station.

She drives a VW, maybe a Jetta or Passat.
Passat is probably Daddy's, but we know girls who drive Jettas are for the most part, HOTT.

She has quirks and idiosyncrasis, a dash of paranoia;
she's crazy too and knows about loyalties.
She knows everything, and probably more.
She won't take it to battle, she takes it to the store.

She's kind, attentive, and needy just like me.
She even understands how love is security.
And all the little things we do mean so much;
it's not the sex, it's the touch. Now let's cuddle.

She enjoys pointing out attractive men,
knowing that I don't mind.
I'm a man magnet, I've learned to live with it,
so she goes and she finds
all those cool, geeky, girly-guys that are so attracted to me
and next thing I know they're coming over for tea..

SHE'S A WHACKJOB they say and she's mine all mine
SHE'S A WHACKJOB they say and she's oh so fine...

Someday we'll meet, in the oddest place
I'll order a vanilla steamer, she'll be eating chocolate cake
with a side dish of spicy buffalo wings
--and extra ranch--
cause it's our thing.
She's not afraid to get messy, and doesn't mind because I do
she'll boldly wipe the spot I missed with a smile and a coo.

SHE'S A WHACKJOB they say and she's mine all mine
SHE'S A WHACKJOB they say and she's oh so fine...

She says all the right things at all the right times
She's teaching me how to tactfully cross the line
We're going places and getting things done
I'll become less "Hey, Dude" and more "Hey, Hon"

She's got a werd of the day,
and enjoys the ins and outs of wordplay.
She shares all my corny jokes,
and would even laugh at a racist poke,
but not take things too seriously:

She's a whackjob, now where the hell is she?

SHE'S A WHACKJOB they say and she's mine all mine
SHE'S A WHACKJOB they say and she's oh so fine...

She's for the most part maternal, better than my mom
but she's also a girl, so we'll go to the mall
I don't gotta look around, I know all eyes are on US
I'll smile, she'll wink, and then she grabs my butt
She knows just how to be graphic and play up the scene
or keep it on the hush cause we just hit the green

SHE'S A WHACKJOB they say and she's mine all mine
SHE'S A WHACKJOB they say and she's oh so fine...

She doesn't really exist from one day to the next
It's a trip when she takes too much of her Xanex
She likes bitch brews but won't turn down a Busch
Smokes purple kush and she makes me dive for the bush
--wait a minute-- she ain't like that. It's a trimmed twat, ya heard, so I'mma lick a cat.

She knows that music is my therapy
We sing together everwhere --even CAR-oake!
She'd let me start a band if only I had bigger hands
to play the guitar but she's satisfied with What I Got so far

She's an excellent driver, and knows how to heel-toe
She test drove the M3, but went with the Bentley --
OH

SHE'S A WHACKJOB they say and she's mine all mine
SHE'S A WHACKJOB they say and she's oh so fine..

She's out there somewhere...

[Tleg93]

Is that your pen? If it is I want to send you my band's demo CD. You've got skills.

[tris91ricer]

Thanks that was all me and what, 5 mins? and please do. PM me. Or IM me if you've got the time..
tris91legacy --AIM
or MSN: tristan@soundmtg.com

[evolutionmovement]

Dude that was awesome! I could never write that kind of thing. That could be the lyrics to a hit song by some quirky band.

Funny thing, the hot chick in Midnight in a perfect World drives a Jetta.

Steve

[dzx]

heh, damn man thats a long reply. Very creative and unique 2. I give it 5 out of 5 stars.

[Tleg93]

No doubt, I liked it. I think it's print and hang worthy. It reminds of this freshman girl back in high school. She wrote some of the most beautiful and imaginative poetry I've ever heard and it blew my mind that she was fourteen years old. You should have read it too. It was intelligent, deep and even sensual...crazy. I asked her about it one time and she just said it came out in like 20 minutes. I was jealous at the time because I've had to struggle for every line and a lot of times it was darker than I wanted it to be. But I learned some things from her so I grew to admire her art. I'm not trying to be flippant, I mean it. You've got skills. If that took you five minutes just think about an hour of concentration.

[G-reg]

I really didn't know until, as corny as it sounds, I met my current GF (soon to be up graded to a more permanent status). I found me a farm girl who trains horses and had a CDL for driving stick shift dump trucks….That also lived in Chicago for 3 years going to a private high school on a ballet scholarship. So she’s fun to take camping/biking/hiking, but is cultured and knows music/art/history/philosophy/etc. She’s a paramedic right now and I have a lot of respect for anyone in that profession. In addition to the stresses of being a medic she has to deal with “the good old boy network” which is pretty threatened by a strong willed very smart young woman, and she deals with the shit from that amazingly well. She’s also working on med-school, so as a medic she can keep me alive long enough to help her through med school and become my Sugar Momma. The gorgeous-blue eyed-dark hair combo only helps. I don’t make fun of guy’s I see with good looking girls, because I’m one of them.

[Yukonart]

I am the perfect woman. I change my own oil, I like to detail cars, I cook dinner almost every night, and I'm cute.

Well we already knew this . I'm kinda hoping Art will speak up and tell us his secret since he seems to have it figured it out.

Honestly, to answer this question, I just have to direct you all her way.

However, since the question's been asked of me, I'll try and elaborate as best I can:

There's no secret to how Laurel and I found each other, really. Our meeting was based on us both being members of a Honda board (that is now long-gone) and just talking about cars and computers a bit. As luck would have it (and I do mean luck) Laurel's old PC was dying and I had several to give away to friends. . . so I offered one, and she accepted.

Our intent was never to date (as I was turning 31 the day we met in person, and she was still 16) but rather get to know each other more. As the weeks passed after our first interpersonal encounter, we grew more fond of each other's company. . . online, on the phone, and in person at some of the meets. I suppose on some level we saw things in each other that we wouldn't have normally acted on, were it not for the fact that I was hosting a party that she was crashing at to avoid a very late-night 80-mile drive home. We were already quite comfortable with each other's company, and when an opportunity was there, we both made very subtle hints towards being intimate. I think the rest can easily be figured-out.

Suffice it to say we have an amazing relationship. Through our 2.5 years of dating we've had a very open line of communication, and it's done nothing but engender a huge amount of mutual trust. If one of us finds someone attractive, we say so. We both know it's not a comment that would be acted, just an observation. More often than not, the comment is followed by agreement, and sometimes a laugh.

At the risk of embarrassing Laurel, I'll mention a few of her traits that have appealed to me since the beginning, and still do:

1. She's amazingly open-minded. . . about everything.
2. She finds humor (and fun) in almost everything.
3. She is far less pre-occupied with drama than probably 90% of the female population.
4. Her interests are, for the most part, very much in-line with mine. (Very important)
5. She's attractive to no end. It just has to be said. She's cute, sexy, and is usually quite humble about it.

There are many other little details that make things more interesting, but those I mentioned pretty much sum-up the crucial parts.


What if we hadn't met? What would I look for in an ideal mate?

Well, she'd have to be a spitting image of Laurel.