Update: Someone on NASIOC sold me a OEM WRX tranny mount, since vrg3 suggested it

. The guy bought the engine and tranny off some genius that wrecked his WRX
on the way home from the dealer 
, he was going to swap the drivtrain into his 2.5RS, and he didn't need the mount. He said it only had a few miles on it, and it was still shiny! $25, too
Anyway, I just put it in about an hour ago. Big improvement, fixed exactly what I wanted it to fix, car doesn't shake violently when I run over a big bump anymore. Clutch engagement feels a lot smoother, and there is probably a quarter horse more, again the whole wasted energy thing. It seemed to slightly help the hesitation, but alas, it definitely did not cure it

...
Turbonator, I was hearing clunks, I was feeling shaking, everything! I distinctly remember making a right turn through a very bad series of bumps near my university, and the car shook so violently and clunked so much I had to pull over... I honestly thought the whole car was going to shake to pieces right in the middle of the road... Which leads me to the condition of the old mount: absolutely ruined. I was able to bend it almost an inch any way I wanted to with my bare hands with little effort...
So the problem that nearly drove me to part with my pride and joy has now been fixed! Woohoo!
